In the Aircraft.cfg file of your aircraft, check if you have a [tailhook] section. If you don't have such section - add the two lines below, if you do - just change the setting:
[tailhook]
cable_force_adjust = 0.70
The default value (1.00) will stop the Hornet for about 2.4 seconds. The new setting (0.70) will increase that time to about 3.4 seconds, which is the time real Hornets take to come to a full stop on the carrier deck. This will also eliminate the nose hitting the deck. Put 0.80 for Dino's T-45.