James, about the Goshawk T-45C real or simulated carrier landing characteristics I can go only on what I've read (mentioned in various threads about these issues on this forum). I don't have a Goshawk NATOPS but the 'gouges' I have read look to have come from those 'pilot flying manuals' along with course notes for the same.
Not having flown a Hornet either it was very interesting to discover this forum with the extreme levels of skill in flying/modding the Hornet in FSX to be found. Why go anywhere else. I have learnt a lot - also being forced to find my own answers about various issues (perhaps not relevant to the sim).
Anyway to me it is interesting to see how real and sim world intermingle when people talk about the Hornet or the Goshawk on this forum. It is good to see because I think it shows just how good it all is in the simulator itself (given all the restrictions that are inevitable with the PC platform with small screens etc.).
PC simulator flying - especially carrier flying - has made a huge leap with the mods from people on this forum. My experience with MsFsim goes back to the beginning but with a quick realisation that the setups were just not good enough (for carrier aviation).
My own flying experience was in the RAN FAA some 35-40 years ago flying Skyhawks from the smallest carrier possible. Every time I'm using Fsim (particularly later versions) it has been extraordinary to be able to recreate (in my mind anyway) that feeling of flying via the sim. That is an advantage for those who have been in a light aeroplane/or similar at the controls that others may not have. However the big advantage for desk pilots is that they can walk away from every crash, which may not bring the best out of the sim flying pilot.
My attempt here is to contribute not so much any technical skills about sim aviation modding but to add a dose of realism (if that is possible) to some of the flying techniques. For any carrier pilot there is nothing else to do - runway landings can be problematic - if one makes them that way - but carrier flying requires the best all the time. Sure there are crashes but the 'motivation' as you see in that zipped PDF 'is to do your best at every opportunity'.
However we all need to have fun and to experiment with different settings or ways of flying - I have no argument with that at all. Yet there is a way to do carrier flying properly and that can be kept in mind or stressed as needs be. To me that marvellous video of the pair of Goshawks returning to the carrier in SanFran captured what it is like (notwithstanding some errors discussed already) but the spirit was there and good to see, very inspiring.
Anyway I cannot claim to have knowledge of USN aircraft of today, only the Skyhawk A4G, but the principles of carrier flying apply (as I read/hear/understand) even today. Meatball, lineup and airspeed. If you don't have your flaps down the LSO will shout "FLAPS" or wave you off! I've not looked at the Goshawk T-45A specifications so cannot comment. Anyway your ideas about being dirty with everything hanging out is the way to carrier land for reasons you describe. One exception being that the Hornet does not use speedbrake due to technical difficulties. However in the sim it could be used (with the full flap mod) to help get/keep the engine RPM up during the carrier approach.
I'd rather refer to publications or websites online or the excellent movie made by the Virtual Blue Angels (mentioned a few times on this forum). However I'm happy to attempt to answer specific questions as best as possible, given the limitations outlined earlier. BTW I've not used the multi-player mode/carriers so cannot comment on them or the missions but have noted (other comments) that they are also good work. What a great forum this is. I'll shutup now.
NB: A lot of the material seen here ends up in the 4.4GB PDF online - that is my motivation. Your questions help give content to this PDF regarding carrier landings today (compared to yesteryear for example). The GIF graphic below will be another PDF page in the Goshawk 'how to carrier land' section.