burner12, at the moment due to a computer crash & re-install OS I don't have FSX installed to quickly check those airspeed figures for you. You must be lined up on the centreline of the angled deck. You seem to be doing that OK.
I would guess that NOT using the AoA indexer for the Optimum Angle of Attack approach (which will give you an airspeed to fly but please use the AoA indexer) may be an issue - especially if the All Up Weight of the aircraft is high - or over the Max. AUW for landing. If you use the 'doughnut' (optimum) in the AoA indexer you will have a better approach because the IAS for your weight will be correct.
Try dialing down the realism to the middle position. As you get more practice then try increasing the realism. Heck if you are not familiar with flying the 'doughnut' then start out with easy and then increase realism as you become more proficient. To me the whole point of this excellent 'Hornet in the sim' is to fly as best one can a 'navy approach'. That is why I have complained :-) elsewhere that one has to fly practice approaches on a runway with the hook down to get the AoA indexer to work properly. It is unusable with the hook up. Getting some practice on a runway flying the AoA indexer will be good value. After all USN pilots do this before ever setting out for the deck. Probably they have to do about 100 FCLP (supervised by an LSO ashore) before they ever see the deck.
You have mentioned 'forcing' the aircraft onto the deck at a high airspeed perhaps. This would be a classic 'spotting the deck' move. [Probably in this circumstance you have really 'crashed nose down' onto the deck.] If you can fly the meatball and AoA Optimum then you will have a better chance if on the angle centreline to do an excellent (at least survivable) landing. That is what every carrier pilot aspires to achieve.
Don't be discouraged if it is difficult - it is. Practice flying 'dirty' using the indexer at a few thousand feet to get used to that. Trim is important also. The aircraft should keep OAoA when dirty at your trim setting. This trim will change slightly when you are on glideslope because less power is being used for descent. Don't fly with the trim though. Trim and then use the controls.
Fly using the carrier pilot mantra - say it out loud if necessary - "Meatball, Lineup & Optimum (AoA). You may have heard it said as "Meatball, Lineup, Airspeed" where it is always understood in the jet era that 'airspeed' refers to Optimum Angle of Attack. Just repeat that mantra over and over until touchdown. Do not look at anything else. Just those things and you will be able to fly better approaches. HTH.

Happier Landings.